You, Me, and Hegemony

  Learning about hegemony over space, time, and your heart indeed requires patience. It's not as quick as ordering food at the fast-food joint next door. Because here, I am not a king, as entrepreneurs might imagine. I am an ordinary person trying to write my own path, including when approaching you. When I started to write a story about you and me, it wasn't solely about hegemony; I was still too unfamiliar with the word itself. So, I don't want to pretend to know much by involving the word 'hegemony' too often in this relationship between two hearts. Because if I were to connect it, I would become doubtful of the meaning of the closeness I'm trying to build with you. I fear I would no longer be able to build the sincerity and togetherness that I hope will last, not based on malicious ulterior motives. Just like sincerity, love also doesn't need hegemony. In my opinion, love should be above hegemony; it should not be oppressed as the vanquished or surrender. Do you still remember the story of Romeo and Juliet? Yes, they fought together not to submit to the rulers; they fought to overcome the hegemony created by others. Instead, they created a poignant story that, in turn, became a hegemonic influence, inspiring today's youth to be braver in fighting for their love. Although now, there are more misunderstandings in interpreting this, myself included. I want all of this to flow without pretense; let everything unfold as it should, even though regret sometimes comes at the end when the outcome isn't quite what we desired. This includes my expectation for my love, hoping that all of this is without ulterior motives. Because I don't want to be like economists who always think that all human actions are based on certain motives to gain something; we are hegemonized by them into believing that it's true, that every human always acts with self-interest. So, which one do you agree with? Well, it's up to you. The important thing is that I have explained my perspective on you, me, and hegemony. Oh, one more thing: if we say that love requires sacrifice for our partner, then we are actually mistaken. Love never feels like a sacrifice when acting with sincerity; it should not regret what has been done. Isn't it true that when you talk about sacrifice, you have already instilled a certain motive into your actions? For example, if we walk together tonight, and you hope that there will be ripe red roses for you. Well, that's natural; even without you expecting it, I would give them to you because I had already planned it. For the concluding remark, I just want it to be about you and me, without hegemony or domination driven by specific motives.   Pondok Tani Yasnaya Polyana The place where I found enlightenment about the meaning of this word, which I then connected to my state of mind.   PranataWahyu